How old were you when you cut the pinny strings?

[SXGuy]

Re: How old were you when you cut the pinny strings?

Im 34, i left home about 4 years ago.

I admit, i still take my washing round to my mums, mainly cos i dont have a tumble dryer and it takes forever for my clothes to dry at home LOL

But i actually believe your mother when she says she enjoys it, i think my mum does too, We will always be our mothers son, and some mothers will always treat us as their little boy regardless of age.

I do consider myself to be be able to stand on my own two feet tho.

[Enforcer]

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I left home and got a mortgage on my first house at age 18, cost me £2000.00 a fortune at the time! Mum used to visit me and bring food parcels. Only ever stopped at home for one night since. To manage I got in 2 lodgers. Married one of them 35 years ago. Still married and in love!
However my son aged 34 although he has his own place, now on his own, comes to stay every other weekend with my granddaughter, we feed them and look forward to them stopping. Love him and Granddaughter to bits.
My daughter split up with her partner and moved back home with my grandson, for a temporary period. Ended up being 2 years until council gave her a house. We paid off 2 credit card debts, then realised that there was another £13000.00 plus of debts. From the advice on this site we have not paid them a penny. All Enforceable! no contact from DCA's or OC's for months now. Grandson has key to our house and still treats this as second home, 14 now, great lad. We have to realise that times have changed, we are now in an era of "boomerang kids"
Your Mum probably looks forward to looking after your brother, you resent it. My daughter always complained about my son taking advantage. Until she needed help. Just hope your Mum And Dad are there to help you, if you fall on hard times. You would do the same for kids.

[diddlydee]

Re: How old were you when you cut the pinny strings?

All the time your mum gives, your brother will take. It's how it is, I'm afraid!

Your mum probably feels useful doing it so, whilst it is a bit of a liberty on your brothers side, ultimately it's up to her to be fed up with it, and it would seem she isn't.

Don't think there is much you can do about it.

[ken100464]

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I am with tech clerk

Left at 16 and never went back.

If a parent makes life too cushty then an offspring will never grow up why should they.

For me part of parenting is to slowly wean your kid off parental support. Yes they are always our kids but to become a responsible adult able to deal with most of lifes curved balls you have to grow up. And that is part of a parents job. To teach them life skills. By molly coddling you actually stunt your kids growth as an individual.

[mgfboy]

Re: How old were you when you cut the pinny strings?

I dont think we ever really cut the pinny strings, either to our kids or our parents. It just they get a bit longer or loser as is required.

[Beefy1976]

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Left home at 21 and moved 100 miles away. My father has sadly passed away but I look after my mom the best I can from a distance - As parents get older they should be looked after and not still be looking after their grown up kids... Everyone is different though but that's my thoughts

[The Tech Clerk]

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Left home @ 16 and joined the Army as a Boy Soldier. prior to that I had been an apprentice Installing AGA cookers and Rayburn cookers etc plumbing.

[Jacobs Cracker]

This is driving me mad!

My brother bought a flat about 10 years ago which he intended to do up & rent out to have as a second income, while still living at home with my parents. But then my parents moved house themselves into a bungalow which meant he could not live with them so had to move into his own flat. Great I thought, about time too considering his age!

Sadly however, my dear brother, still cannot stand on his own 2 feet. He goes to my 72yr old mum & dad's on Mondays, Wednesdays & Fridays for his tea, Saturdays takes his washing for my mum to do & spends most of Sunday there too! When my mum cooks his tea she even has to hand it to him on a tray while he sits on his bottom watching tv! (She has also always pampered my dad in these same ways!)

I've had many conversations with my mum along the lines of she 'is not doing him any favours', & 'what is he going to do when she isn't here to do these things?' My mum says she enjoys doing it & can't see the problem & unfortunately our conversations about it usually end in arguments. My mum is very fit for her age but she's no spring chicken. It annoys me that my mum is doing it but most of all that my brother is letting her.

I hear you ask 'exactly how old is he?' Well, he is 44yrs old!

So please do tell me - how old were you when you cut the strings from either your parents or children? And is it just me or would you feel the same way?