Son and elderly father

[transformer999]

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There's no doubt that you're a good Mum to your Son, and a good Daughter to your Dad. They're both lucky to have you

There is no doubt in what PlanB has said about you cym.....I just came across this thread of yours and am so so sorry to hear what you are going through and still have the time to read all the bollocks I post up on my thread....and you have given me so much support and encouragement to.....so please do not feel sad.

It is great that you have posted up what you are going through as it helps so much and you have lots of friends on here who will listen and care. Even if you just want to off load a stressful day.

My god.....if I could off load all my stress on my thread my bloody keyboard would blow up

You are doing a fantastic job and coping very well despite what you are going through....and as PlanB said this will all pass soon....just hang in there....and the best thing on this site is we are allowed to swear and Niddy won't say anything....the reason why is he swears more than all of us so fuck it!!!!!!!

Your a good Mum...daughter and a lovely person for doing what you do...and have done....keep it up....as things will only get better...you'll see.....

[transformer999]

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Am I the only person who doesn't do dope..it makes me ill
Ok so i have just bought two bottles of fruit flavoured Vodka (thank you Santander and Tesco)

By the way I do understand, I had the horrible drunk/depressed/suicidal/drug addict and thieving stepson when I was in my late 20's and early 30's

Hi jon....your not the only person who doesn't take dope....I don't take it either....well not yet that is...things carry on the way they are I may just change my mind

[cymruambyth]

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Well I am no longer a daughter. Dad died in his sleep during the night, the weather in Cornwall matches my feeling wild, windy and wet!
There is a backlog at the crematorium, so I may be here for over a week.

Just to keep things going, dear son has been rolled in Ibiza and lost his iPhone and wallet! He doesn't know about dad as he won't cope very well.
Youngest son is going on a school trip to Germany so he will miss the funeral; I have told him to go as mum has died he won't be upsetting anyone.

[transformer999]

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so sorry to hear about your loss cym,......big hug and kisses to you at your time of sadness

[transformer999]

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He is gone


You can shed tears that he is gone
Or you can smile because he has lived
You can close your eyes and pray that he will come back
Or you can open your eyes and see all that he has left
Your heart can be empty because you can't see him
Or you can be full of the love that you shared
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday
You can remember him and only that he is gone
Or you can cherish his memory and let it live on
You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back
Or you can do what he would want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on.


David Harkin (1959 - )


If I should go tomorrow


If I should go tomorrow
It would never be goodbye,
For I have left my heart with you,
So don't you ever cry.
The love that's deep within me,
Shall reach you from the stars,
You'll feel it from the heavens,
And it will heal the scars.

[jon1965]

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If I should go before the rest of you
Break not a flower nor inscribe a stone
Nor when I'm gone speak in a Sunday voice
But be the usual selves that I have known
Weep if you must
Parting is hell
But life goes on
So sing as well.



I am so sorry to hear your news.
I never really understood how much it hurts to lose a parent until I lost my dad
I do hope your son in Ibiza can hold it together

[di30]

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Awww, honey I am so sorry to hear the sad news. I feel for you, my heart and thoughts are with you, and we are here to talk anytime.

Reading through you're posts (so sorry for not being here earlier) you have had a very hectic time of it, and in so many ways reminded me of my life. I see you're beloved dad suffered an amount of illnesses, again just like my own dad, many of them the same too, including dementia, and I can only say that I know exactly what you've been through, and whenever you feel like a chat, please do feel free to get in touch with me.

Thinking of you xxxxx

[clueless24]

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You have been such a strength and support to so many on this site let us help you now in your time of need.
Love and thoughts are with you Cym xxx

[MrsD]

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I'm thinking of you Cym, have a good howl then try to think about all the good times.
You know there isn't any other option but time to heal from this, I think once you realise this it makes it easier, it won't be tomorrow or the next day but there will be a time you can look back and smile, try and aim for that to get you through the next couple of weeks.

Son really needs to man up, does he want to come home but too proud to say?

[PlanB]

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Cym, there's nothing I can say that will ease the pain of losing your beloved father. Regardless of everything some of the younger members of your family are currently doing to test your patience, you seem to be a close and loving team, and hopefully that will help you get through this difficult time.

My thoughts are with you

[cymruambyth]

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Thank you for all your kind thoughts. The person who died was no longer dad but there are some great memories of us as a family and of all the things that dad did for us.
We are now trying to find Welsh hymns that everyone can sing, not just me and my sister, so it will limited to Cwm Rhondda, or Bread of Heaven for the English heathens

As for son, he was coming home but now isn't! However lack of contact means I can't cancel the phone number or do anything about insurance claims etc. I love him

[PlanB]

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As for son, he was coming home but now isn't! However lack of contact means I can't cancel the phone number or do anything about insurance claims etc. I love him

Contact him through Facebook ? His brothers may be allowed access - parents are generally banned from such invasion of their space

[cymruambyth]

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He can message me but I'm not allowed any insight to him . Trouble is without iPhone he has to go somewhere for the Internet!
I have texted his friend to try and get contact!

[cymruambyth]

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How can I be so grown up about everything and having poured dry ginger in to my gin I' m bawling my eyes out because dad loved dry ginger?
I must need more gin!

[PlanB]

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How can I be so grown up about everything and having poured dry ginger in to my gin I' m bawling my eyes out because dad loved dry ginger?
I must need more gin!

My Mum's favourite tipple was brandy and ginger and I hated the stuff. But whenever I see someone with a glass of Remy Martin in their hand I think of her (she's been gone over 20 years now). It's nice to have these little personalized memories. Add more gin and raise a toast to your dear Dad

And let that puppy do its worst because this is a time when you should be drowning your sorrows if you feel like it