How much should l ask dtr to pay?

[cymruambyth]

Re: How much should l ask dtr to pay?

I've already helped afore mentioned son through uni. If I'm really lucky at one point I will have THREE going through uni at the same time

[PriorityOne]

Re: How much should l ask dtr to pay?

My daughter's in her second year at uni.... and it's not been too bad financially because she got a Gifted & Talented scholarship through them as well (although I had to fight blood and guts to get it!!)

I currently pay her mobile phone bill and her car tax and insurance. When she finds work at the end of all this, she will of course pay something towards housekeeping but not a huge amount because of reasons I said in an earlier post; I want her (and the bf) to be able to save for a deposit.

I'm very proud of how she's managing her money actually; she budgets very well, doesn't blow it on going out and so far, has managed without racking up an overdraft whatsoever.... and perhaps the greatest gift of all was her saying that she wouldn't have achieved half as much over the years without my support.

Bless!!!

[Pixie]

Re: How much should l ask dtr to pay?

I must be a hard b**ch because mine all had part time jobs while at school, college and uni

They've all paid their own mobile phone bills, clothes, bus/train fares, car expenses, make-up and socialising costs etc but I didn't take any board from them.

When I was able, I helped them out from time to time if something major/unexpected happened, but they've always paid it back.

[PriorityOne]

Re: How much should l ask dtr to pay?

I must be a hard b**ch because mine all had part time jobs while at school, college and uni

They've all paid their own mobile phone bills, clothes, bus/train fares, car expenses, make-up and socialising costs etc but I didn't take any board from them.

When I was able, I helped them out from time to time if something major/unexpected happened, but they've always paid it back.

My daughter works..... I do agree with that one Pix.

Once she's finished uni. and on her feet though, she can have all her bills back... but the house-keeping will stay low.

[cymruambyth]

Re: How much should l ask dtr to pay?

Yep all mine have had part time jobs during term time and have worked all their summer holidays from the age of 14.

[DNW]

Re: How much should l ask dtr to pay?

My 18 yr old son is in a minimum wage job earning around £125 a week and from that he pays his own car, clothing, holiday and living expenses. In fact he pays for pretty much everything himself and rarely eats more than a sandwich at home as he gets cheap food in work. He also does all of his own washing etc. I think the only thing I directly pay for him is his mobile contact, and even with that he's only ever run up a bill over and above his contract once (and that was a couple of years ago when he went abroad with his dad).

I've always told him that as soon as he finished college and I lost his child benefit, then he would be expected to pay towards his 'keep'. I think this was the main reason he stayed in college as long as he did, even when he hated this last year of his course.

He's dropped out of college now and is trying to pick up extra hours in work - but I still haven't asked him to contribute yet. He struggles already what with car insurance being as stupidly expensive for boys as it is, so I figure if he was paying for his keep then he'd only end up asking to 'borrow' money all the time. I guess it's a swings and roundabouts thing at the moment.