Bereavement- what to do when a loved one dies

[di30]

Re: Bereavement- what to do when a loved one dies

Alwaysskint

I am so sorry to hear of all your losses, so young too.
My heart and thoughts are with you and it helps to talk about things.

Since losing my dad in July of 2010 I do find I am talking about him a lot, but it does help, but when I talk of him its about the good happy times.
A few of my sisters won't hear of any of it, they keep their distance on the subject, and I know we all deal with our grief in different ways.
When talking to mum, dad is the main subject, but she does tend to go off the mark sometimes and says things like "if only" and then goes on about all the illnesses he had, so I have to try to comfort her in confirming nothing more could have been done, and that he is at peace now.

We have lost a few young family members, age 12, 14 and 28 and they have not had the chance to live, its very tragic indeed, but I do really believe they are gone to a better place than this.
I see it and believe its another dimension.

I do have a photo of my dad's stone, my mum didn't want the date on it, but its such a nice stone, I would post it up on here, but do you think its appropriate?
I don't want to go and upset anyone, due to lots of heartache already.
Its a cremation stone, that are now these days made in all shapes and sizes, so if you know of anyone looking for one that have lost loved ones in the past, I will post the photo up.

My love to you all, god bless XXXX

[LooLoo]

Re: Bereavement- what to do when a loved one dies

Di post it you want to.

this is what I think is good about this thread - just share your feelings.

I know its a bit of a cliche but things do get easier, but my dad is never ever far from my thoughts esp as holiday times.

I think this is the place to speak about your loved ones and not worry

xx

[swanfan]

Re: Bereavement- what to do when a loved one dies

I do have a photo of my dad's stone, my mum didn't want the date on it, but its such a nice stone, I would post it up on here, but do you think its appropriate?
I don't want to go and upset anyone, due to lots of heartache already.
Its a cremation stone, that are now these days made in all shapes and sizes, so if you know of anyone looking for one that have lost loved ones in the past, I will post the photo up.

My love to you all, god bless XXXX

I agree with LooLoo Di post it up if it helps you thats the main idea.

[Gerry]

Re: Bereavement- what to do when a loved one dies

Alwaysskint

I do have a photo of my dad's stone, my mum didn't want the date on it, but its such a nice stone, I would post it up on here, but do you think its appropriate?

I will post the photo up.

My love to you all, god bless XXXX

It certainly wont be the worst thing that you've done by a long shot scallywag... ;;L

Only kidding you Di you know i luv you loads... :-010 Post it up I'd like to see it... :-04 >< :-w

Gerry x x :yeah

[di30]

Re: Bereavement- what to do when a loved one dies

Aww thank you my friends. I rather ask first.

Lol Gerry .

Right will dig it out and post up in a min. XXX

[Gerry]

Re: Bereavement- what to do when a loved one dies

Aww thank you my friends. I rather ask first.

Lol Gerry .

Right will dig it out and post up in a min. XXX

Everyone is so loving and supportive in their posts. :3sum

I'm just my usual cheeky wee self... mile :yeah

Gerry x x

[di30]

Re: Bereavement- what to do when a loved one dies

Aww thank you my friends. I rather ask first.

Lol Gerry .

Right will dig it out and post up in a min. XXX

Everyone is so loving and supportive in their posts. :3sum

I'm just my usual cheeky wee self... mile :yeah

Gerry x x

Sooooooooo true Gerry and so are you.

oh i didn't mean cheeky by the way lmao I meant loving and supporting and of course you have a GSOH, what more can we ask for hey? XXXXX

[di30]

Re: Bereavement- what to do when a loved one dies

Right a few here, the stone was put down in time for New Year's Eve, and before that he had a little plot with memorial vases and a wreath you can just about see under the snow taken at Xmas time, then the stone followed, it was a lovely surprise for the new year because there was a waiting list to have this laid down.

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Hubby arranging all the flowers.
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[swanfan]

Re: Bereavement- what to do when a loved one dies

Awww Di, that looks lovely you should be so proud.

And as for Gerry i think a sense of humour in such difficult circumstances is great.

It's just how i would try to cope with it, but each to they're own, we're here for you Di. xx

[di30]

Re: Bereavement- what to do when a loved one dies

Thank you Swanfan, and for also giving me and others the opportunity to post this up and to be able to talk about our devoted late loved ones, thank you sooooooooooo much.

A pic of my dad now in his younger days.......
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And here is dad with mum, this was before dad got really ill. And he passed away July 2010 aged 69.
God bless dad, love you so much, you were a dad in a million and never a day goes by without you in my heart and thoughts as always XXXXXXXXXXXX

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[Gerry]

Re: Bereavement- what to do when a loved one dies

Oh Di thats absolutely beautiful, it really is very special .... :-0;13

Auld pops will be very happy at cheeky chops selection.... :3sum

Well done honey you did him proud.... :-0;20 :-*

Gerry x x x :-bd

[di30]

Re: Bereavement- what to do when a loved one dies

Thank you Gerry sweetheart.

It had taken long enough and was so happy when it was laid down for New Years Eve, which was also my wedding anniversary, it made my day.XXXXXXXXXXXXXX

[di30]

Re: Bereavement- what to do when a loved one dies

Aww my lovely mum holding one of dad's photos, it have helped her though. XXX

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[Gerry]

Re: Bereavement- what to do when a loved one dies

Aww my lovely mum holding one of dad's photos, it have helped her though. XXX

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Oh thats lovely she looks very content in that picture. O:-) :-0;21

Treasured memories of happy family times. :-0;1 :-0;13

Love Gerry x x :-0;20 0;20

[di30]

Re: Bereavement- what to do when a loved one dies

Aww thank you.

She asked if she could have a photo taken with his photo and with it being the first xmas without him it made her feel closer to him. xXXXX