Work have pulled a fast one here.....

[PriorityOne]

Re: Work have pulled a fast one here.....

Not updated this thread in a while, so here goes.....

The job that I was offered in April hasn't happened yet but I am assured that it will happen next week because they have now signed contracts for the premises and I have also had a meeting with them..... things just need to be formalised, but I can't give notice in my current job until they have. In the meantime, I have driven myself nuts waiting, waiting and WAITING for news that they've signed..... fully expecting to hand my notice in before the end of the summer term..... and trying to continue where I am without letting it all get on top of me.

I managed to get to the end of the summer term but had a run-in with my boss about his constant harking on about volunteering at weekends and staff meetings that he wanted out of the blue. Fortunately, other people and also grown sick of it and he was forced to backtrack to an extent and minute it , so the pressure started to die off because his attempts to divide and conquer us had been quashed as well.

Returning to work in September however has been an absolute frigging nightmare. Firstly, I have no teaching base anymore since he decided to timetable an external provision in my room 2 whole days a week..... so I now have to lug stuff from room to room to teach, with minimal available resources and kids that are as feral as f*ck. The policy on mobile phone usage in class is very slack, as is access to inappropriate web content and listening to music through earphones..... which continues to make teaching a living Hell. On top of this, we have 100 minute lessons and I had the same class for 2 of these on the trot last week (3 and a half hours with the same kids) with only a short break...... which left me looking and feeling like a rag doll at the end..... so I've been off sick since. That's not to mention the kid I had in my face last Friday who called me a f*cking c*nt for managing to confiscate his mate's phone. I've never been so close to cracking as I came last week and that's not like me at all.

Despite this, I had every intention of going back this Monday until I can give notice but after getting a rather patronising, damage limitation type email from my boss re. the issues described above (and then some!), I sense that he's going to try and start a capability process which has left me fuming...... so, I'm now thinking that my best bet is to stay off sick, go to my GP on Monday morning and get signed off indefinitely with stress until I know what I'm doing.

I've weighed this up very which way I can think of today...... but have been advised by a close friend and by my own daughter, that they don't think I should return either.

Any views would be greatly appreciated as I can't see the wood for the trees at the moment with some of it. I think this is what I would suggest to anyone going through similar though. Life is just too short to keep having stress like this on a daily basis and I want my life back.

What do you think? He's not down as a reference by the way...... lol!

[PriorityOne]

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Genuinley hope you get it. It's horrible when you work for an employer that doesn't care.

Thanks TM.... I hope so too. If not, I'll have to start looking properly, I think.

[TibetanMonk]

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No worries.... I didn't mean it as literally as it came out SnV. If he asks me why I'm leaving, I'll say.... that's about it really. He had a chance to put things right during our meeting a few months ago but decided to treat is like a damage limitation exercise in front of HR instead. Silly man....

Genuinley hope you get it. It's horrible when you work for an employer that doesn't care.

[PriorityOne]

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As tempting as that is, I would just be smiling internally when you hand in your notice, as you never know who remembers your departure.

I worked in a place 15 years ago (and they treated their workers with real contempt) where someone on their last day got very drunk at lunchtime, and in the afternoon jumped on his bosses desk, pulled his pants down and wiggled his bum in his face.

Someone who witnessed this (and now runs his own company) that I still keep in touch with emailed me last week to say the above bum wiggler applied for a job there, and, strangely, was not invited for interview!

Not that I'm saying you'd do such a thing (!), but sometimes you never know who remembers your conduct (not just your ex boss).

No worries.... I didn't mean it as literally as it came out SnV. If he asks me why I'm leaving, I'll say.... that's about it really. He had a chance to put things right during our meeting a few months ago but decided to treat is like a damage limitation exercise in front of HR instead. Silly man....

[SaltnVinegar]

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and I'm also dying to tell my current boss and his sidekick where to stick it...

As tempting as that is, I would just be smiling internally when you hand in your notice, as you never know who remembers your departure.

I worked in a place 15 years ago (and they treated their workers with real contempt) where someone on their last day got very drunk at lunchtime, and in the afternoon jumped on his bosses desk, pulled his pants down and wiggled his bum in his face.

Someone who witnessed this (and now runs his own company) that I still keep in touch with emailed me last week to say the above bum wiggler applied for a job there, and, strangely, was not invited for interview!

Not that I'm saying you'd do such a thing (!), but sometimes you never know who remembers your conduct (not just your ex boss).

[PriorityOne]

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Just updating to let you all know that I am still waiting for an outcome from that interview I had. The company want me on board but are unsure of what position to offer me because I am qualified for more than one role in their organisation..... It's a new educational provision and needs setting up from scratch so I'm unlikely to hear anything definite for a few weeks yet.

It's driving me nuts because until I get an offer in writing, I won't let myself believe it..... and I'm also dying to tell my current boss and his sidekick where to stick it...

[PriorityOne]

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Might end u being their boss. Cue the "OI ! shithead, come here"

OMG.... that would be funny!!

Good Luck P1

Thanks Pix

[Pixie]

Re: Work have pulled a fast one here.....

Good Luck P1

[oscar]

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Not sure my boss or his sidekick will be best pleased if I get it though.... as it's in the SAME building which I didn't know when I applied

Funny how karma works sometimes...

Might end u being their boss. Cue the "OI ! shithead, come here"

[PriorityOne]

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Well, well..... I'm eating my words. I was interviewed for another job today and the feedback was fantastic!! Looks like I may be off after all but am not counting my chickens just yet..... so will keep you all posted.

Not sure my boss or his sidekick will be best pleased if I get it though.... as it's in the SAME building which I didn't know when I applied

Funny how karma works sometimes...

[PriorityOne]

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As you have done all along; when you meet with him have a clear outline of what you want, how it can be implemented and why it wont impact others. I find if someone approaches a company with a well thought out argument rather than just "I want to" its far harder to say no. In my experience the main reason a company will turn down an employees request for flexible working is due to the impact to the rest of the business - I would always try and cover that in your initial request - takes their argument away Jane x

Thanks Jane…

I have had it in mind to request a Mon-Thurs week from September for some time to enable me to benefit from a 3-day weekend and distance myself from the job. The reason I'm prepared to wait until then is to reduce the impact on existing working arrangements…. so if I tell him now(ish), he'll have plenty of time to think about how to implement it properly. I doubt it's the kind of job where working from home would be considered, so a 4-day week seems the best way forward for me and on my salary, I can afford to do it nicely.

It would be virtually impossible for me to get another local job on my current salary, so I'm not going anywhere….. and it would be to his advantage to make me less of a thorn in his side at this point as well …. as I have not forgotten how he tried to trivialise my concerns during our meeting to save face in front of HR. At the same time, I don't want to rush in too soon with any suggestions until I've heard how he plans to deal with my full return to work at the end of this month.

I think I might email him during the last week of my phased return and ask for clarification beforehand…. just to cover all bases.

[tastyjane]

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As you have done all along; when you meet with him have a clear outline of what you want, how it can be implemented and why it wont impact others. I find if someone approaches a company with a well thought out argument rather than just "I want to" its far harder to say no. In my experience the main reason a company will turn down an employees request for flexible working is due to the impact to the rest of the business - I would always try and cover that in your initial request - takes their argument away Jane x

[PriorityOne]

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Still nothing from Occupational Health despite emailing HR asking them to chase it up this week. HR didn't even email me back…. so I'm not chasing it up again.

I am enjoying this phased return way too much…. only wish I could afford to work a half week all the time! I would still like to approach the boss about cutting down to a 4-day week from September and was hoping to do this in conjunction with my visit to Occ. Health but this doesn't look promising at the moment. I'm assuming that the boss will want to speak to me when the phased return ends though, so I may just have to approach him with it then. My only concern is that he will then try and cram 5 days work into 4 as of next September, so I'll need to document those concerns when I see him… somehow.

I may even suggest a 4-day week before September….

[PriorityOne]

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calm and assertive and give them no reason to argue with you. methinks the penny has dropped that you're not going to messed around with, hope it all lasts

God, I hope so…. although I'm wondering what it'll be like once I'm back there full time again….

Great news, why leave a job you love if they can adjust your working conditions  hope they replace the colleagues that are leaving not just expect you left behind to pick up their stuff too! Jane x

They will have to be replaced…. no question. Two of them are core subject specialists and very clever. Right people in the wrong environment, so it was no surprise to learn they were going elsewhere.

[tastyjane]

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Great news, why leave a job you love if they can adjust your working conditions 😄 hope they replace the colleagues that are leaving not just expect you left behind to pick up their stuff too! Jane x