Can anyone recommend good resources/forum for single Fathers?

[ATW]

Re: Can anyone recommend good resources/forum for single Fathers?

I don't think much of the Family courts at all. Its been one of those inside jokes between lawyers since I can remember where you know that in a divorce or separation the lawyer acting for the dad is screwed. Frankly there is nothing even slightly amusing about it and ultimately the mums usually win at the kids cost and then the next case comes along and the same happens again whilst all the lawyers and the judiciary pat themselves on the back for keeping the joke going for so long. Every now and again the newspapers and the government say things are going to change and dads will be given a chance but it simply does not happen. When the mum and the courts stop you seeing your kids society then just views you as yet another irresponsible dad who doesn't care about his kids and can't be bothered to keep in touch with them.

[stevieb]

Re: Can anyone recommend good resources/forum for single Fathers?

I don't think much of the Family courts at all. Its been one of those inside jokes between lawyers since I can remember where you know that in a divorce or separation the lawyer acting for the dad is screwed. Frankly there is nothing even slightly amusing about it and ultimately the mums usually win at the kids cost and then the next case comes along and the same happens again whilst all the lawyers and the judiciary pat themselves on the back for keeping the joke going for so long. Every now and again the newspapers and the government say things are going to change and dads will be given a chance but it simply does not happen. When the mum and the courts stop you seeing your kids society then just views you as yet another irresponsible dad who doesn't care about his kids and can't be bothered to keep in touch with them.

I sat there in the mediation having to listen to slanderous comments being made, if i objected or tried to intervene then I was told to stop bickering.
I had to listen to complete contradictions being made by my ex.
I was told the past was irrelevant and had no bearing on the current issues (they are totally relevant) yet when my ex raised the past, it was noted down.
I was told agree to the ex's wishes or get an order prohibiting my access totally to my son.
I walked out at that point stating that it was a farce.
Came back, got told that we were going into court.
Now have to endure a section 7 report procedure all upon my ex's wishes and go back to court.
I made my feelings perfectly clear in court that I wasn't happy with the prior proceedings and my reasons why but again this was discounted as "im sure that did not happen".

funny though how cafcass have not rung me back today after a simple request this morning.
absolutely tamping when you can go round spouting crap about someone yet not be allowed to defend yourself.

you are absolutely correct in saying that it is a joke. The only person that is losing out in all this farce is my son. It's just trying to work out the next steps I can take to rectify the situation, fight against what has been said, disprove the accusations and hopefully regain the bond I have/am losing with my son.

[cookie2112]

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Hi Stevieb, really sorry to hear about the awful time you are having, I would agree that the system is on the mothers side mostly and that is unfair, parents can be good or bad regardless of their gender and to hear that the courts won't even listen to your side of things is just awful, as you said at the end of the day it should be about what is best for your son - and she should want that too(!), is he very young, I mean is there any chance they could or would speak to him to see what he thinks?

Anyway, I know its pretty useless, as can't do anything constructive to help but just wanted to say that I am on your side!

[Enforcer]

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My sons mates all call him Stevieb, another one going through the same. Nothing but grief from CSA, fighting them, kids are used as a tool. Either you pay, do as you are told, or you don't get to see them. Crazy situation.

[Pixie]

Re: Can anyone recommend good resources/forum for single Fathers?

Sorry to hear what you're going through Stevieb. It's ridiculous that you're not allowed to be heard.

[SA Gold]

Re: Can anyone recommend good resources/forum for single Fathers?

Sorry to hear of your grief StevieB.
I haven't been to court or anything but its all in her favour all the time.....

Best wishes
SA