My dad is really ill

[Spent2much]

Re: I think my dad is dying

My uncle from Luton and auntie from California are coming to visit him it might be the last time my auntie at least gets to see him , and my uncle isn't well himself .
Not sure if anyone is seeing this but it helps me to share x

[Spent2much]

Re: I think my dad is dying

well my dad really is very ill , he was in hospital yesterday where he had a lot of blood tests heart monitor , and a drip to hydrate him , he went to the day centre to do some physio and the doctor there was very concerned with him and called an ambulance straight away , my mum met him at the hospital .

He can't move his left side and its just got worse , the good news was that his heart was fine according to the doctors , wondering now if this is a stroke or he is in the advanced stages of Parkinsons , I called a family meeting for Thursday to discuss a rota because i can't do it alone its too much for me , I'm cleaning the bedroom carpet everyday and also the bathroom needs cleaning daily as my dad has lost control below bless him . I could cry and cry .

[Spent2much]

Re: I think my dad is dying

I really feel for you S2M...I've felt so low myself so know how you're feeling. I think you need to have a word with your doctor or your own health will suffer

thank you I don't like being a moaner I just feel so down right now , I am seeing my friend at church tomorrow who is a GP he knows us all so he is aware of what's going on with my dad x

[Pixie]

Re: I think my dad is dying

All this with my parents is causing me to feel pretty down and i don't feel like doing anything i can't even motivate myself to do any housework and that's not like me at all

I really feel for you S2M...I've felt so low myself so know how you're feeling. I think you need to have a word with your doctor or your own health will suffer

[Spent2much]

Re: I think my dad is dying

well things are not good with my dad , he hasn't been well for over a week now, they can't have a wet room done they are not entitled to one, they had a builder in to assess if one could be done and because the bathroom is so small the window and basically everything has to be stripped out so will cost a lot of money .

My brother is fitting a shower for them but it still won't solve the problem of stepping in and out of the bath or in their case getting on the bath chair which my dad is scared of using . My mum hasn't been out for over a week i am taking them both shopping Monday for food hopefully .

The PN has booked my dad in for physio and also speech therapy and also for him to see a psychologist because is memory is now affected but e cannot have medication as he had a triple bypass in 2005 , feel sorry for my parents , they worked all their lives paid all their tax and insurance and when they need the most help they are refused because they have some savings.

Me and hubby are planning a holiday next November to Florida , its proving hard to get insurance as the small print says the insurance won't pay out if my dad should die or be taken ill and i have to cancel as this is a prexisting medical condition . I feel this is unfair what am i supposed to do sit around for my dad to die before taking a holiday ? that could be years and we haven't had a real holiday since 2009 and as i am my parents carer i feel i need a break .

I am going on holiday but i will just have to pray my dad is okay while i am away , what a sad world we live in all this proves to me is that insurances are just out to make profit and are a complete rip off.

All this with my parents is causing me to feel pretty down and i don't feel like doing anything i can't even motivate myself to do any housework and that's not like me at all

[Spent2much]

Re: I think my dad is dying

to be honest S2M, going shopping with Mr NW is much the same, it would be quicker to take my Mum than him!

lol

I knew i wanted to tell you something , i found this on youtube

and my grandson laughs like mad at it , and asks me to play it over and over again , he says 'more ' bless him

[nightwatch]

Re: I think my dad is dying

to be honest S2M, going shopping with Mr NW is much the same, it would be quicker to take my Mum than him!

[Spent2much]

Re: I think my dad is dying

ask if they could get some help towards it, Local authority are very good at NOT letting you know that you could of had help!!

My brother is going to ask about any help, we just got back from shopping with them , they like to choose their own food but it takes ages with their walking aides , but they are my parents and its the least i can do once a fortnight plus it gets them out of the house for a few hours .

[nightwatch]

Re: I think my dad is dying

ask if they could get some help towards it, Local authority are very good at NOT letting you know that you could of had help!!

[Spent2much]

Re: I think my dad is dying

an update about my dad .

He is going for and ecg tomorrow because he needs medication for his memory but because he had a triple bypass in 2004 they cannot give him certain medications .

secondly the bath chair isn't working my dad is scared of it he is having panic attacks and my mum has to help which is nearly killing her as she is not well herself she has a bad hip . I offered to help with the bath time , but my dad won't let me bless him its his pride and i understand that .

They have had another assessment about the wet room , but there is over a year waiting list for it , so my mum has decided to pay for one herself so we are now searching for the best prices, she cannot go on like this and i feel helpless .

[Spent2much]

Re: I think my dad is dying

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hw3CE04LGiA

[nightwatch]

Re: I think my dad is dying

[Spent2much]

Re: I think my dad is dying

thank you NW x

[nightwatch]

Re: I think my dad is dying

Happy Birthday to Mum, so glad things seem to be getting better x

[Spent2much]

Re: I think my dad is dying

update, my parents now have hand rails and another stair rail, this happened about a week ago but with the upset of losing my cat and getting the new kittens settled I haven't had time to update this thread. they also have a bath chair but they cant get on with it , my dad is too unsteady to use it and cant work it properly so there is someone coming round today to see what they can suggest next, my mum said she is willing to pay for a walk in bath because she doesn't like showers so hopefully this will be the next thing on the agenda .

My dad has been for his check up at the hospital for his Parkinson's and they agree he isn't as well as last time and they are assessing him for some medication for his memory because they can't just give him this medication as my dad has had a triple bypass in 2005 so they need to assess him first .

He is a lot better now though and we just celebrated my mums 80th which was really lovely .