Grandaughters toilet fears

[peppacare]

Re: Grandaughters toilet fears

Hi

Have just read your post, and she sounds so like my daughter. My daughter is nearly 4 and will only use the toilet at our house. or 'Mummy's toilet' as she puts it.
I'm at my wits end. Its making it so hard to do anything. She's presently at pre school and its spoiling her time there, she's either wetting herself or absolutely desperate when i come to pick her up.
We take her own toilet seat, but that doesn't seem to have helped.
Did you manage to have any breakthroughs?
Help

[Elsie52]

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No progress as yet Dopey.....we havn't been into town yet and we have had other things to deal with........... Head lice

This is the second time in about a year, there must be another outbreak at school....yet again.!!

Will definitely try and get her problem sorted out whilst she is here.

[MrsD]

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how did it go Elsie, any progress???

[Elsie52]

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Hi Dopey,
Thanks for all the tips, we are just willing to try anything now, 'cos its becoming more of a problem, or its stopping us doing things which is a shame for all of us. She is here next week, and I shall take them shopping to town and see how we go when she needs the loo. I'm going to have a nice little chat with her, and see what is really troubling her about it all. I will let you know how we get on.

[MrsD]

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what about letting her clean the cubicle or put down a "loo paper seat", my wee cousin had a similar problem when we were little, she used to put half a loo roll on the seat and then make a dirty dive to put her bum down before it all blew away (public loos can be drafty up here), or show her you're squirting something clean down it??? a pain I know to humf it all about but might help on planes and stuff and you could just produce like magic. Other thing is have any of brother/cousins commented on different equipement if you get my drift? my DD had megacolon when she was little and it was a terrible bind always looking for loos, so i can sympathise.

[fiscalfool]

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Hmmm 2 litre bottle of water ... poured from height into the sink in a public toilet. The sight and sound of water will have her dashing for the nearest cubicle.

Sorry ... couldn't think of anything constructive!

[Elsie52]

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Nope........no where but home and hotel rooms that we are staying in......everywhere else is a no go.!!

[fiscalfool]

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As a slight aside, will she go to toilets in restaurants etc? They might be easier to find if desperate.

[Gerry]

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Hi Elsie,

Here's the link for supernanny Jo Frost, there might be something on there to help you or maybe you could post your problem for advice.

http://www.supernanny.co.uk/

Good luck.

Gerry x x

[Elsie52]

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Thanks Gerry and Di.

She has always had a few anxieties of some sort........but this came on out of the blue. I did wonder if her older brother had frightened her by saying something was going to come out of the bowl and bite her bum etc......you know what boys are like lol, but he says he hasn't.!! You don't realise what a problem it can be, on days out etc its a nightmare, and I'm sure its not doing her insides any good by holding on to everything. She is here for the week next week, so I'll broach the subject again and ask her if she would like a new toilet seat to take with us when we go out......but she was adamant that she's a big girl now and doesn't need one......did I forget to say that she was stubborn too.!!!

She's also the light of my life as we have 3 sons and 2 grandsons, so only girl.!!

[Elsie52]

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Kids have definitely got their little 'quirks' haven't they?!

I'm not sure what you could try! I'd be at my wits end! I thought DDand her eating habits were bad enough, I can't imagine what it must be like for you guys with DGD!

Pull ups are a good idea but would she forget she wasn't wearing one and end up having an accident?

Angelic.

I have only bought Pull ups for her to wear during the flight in case she can't hold on......this is the strange thing 'cos when we get to the hotel she will be fine and use the toilet ' cos its 'ours'. !???

Don't know about the automatic flush, I would think probably so, but will check with her next week.

[di30]

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My friends little girl was born with her bowel outside her body, just before her surgery to fix it she found her daughter sitting on the toilet when she asked what she was doing she said “I’m just practising for after my surgery mummy “.
God bless the wee soul..

Hope your ok elsie, try not to worry too much...

Gerry x x

oh .

XXX

[Gerry]

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My friends little girl was born with her bowel outside her body, just before her surgery to fix it she found her daughter sitting on the toilet when she asked what she was doing she said “I’m just practising for after my surgery mummy “.
God bless the wee soul..

Hope your ok elsie, try not to worry too much...

Gerry x x

[di30]

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So sorry to hear your granddaughter going through this problem, but I do think maybe its worth taking her own little toilet seat in a bag just in case. As she will recognise her own seat it may help.

I can always remember when i was little, when we were travelling some miles out, there was these toilets, like cubicles on the side of the road (under cover of course(, but they had a strange smell, it was not exactly disinfectant but something like that, and i can always remember being very anxious about using them, and mum had to keep persuading me, and i would be literally peeing myself as well.
I think it was because they did not look like the toilets we had at home and they were very small but also like something out of space....not that I know what they would like like outer space of course lol.
I can always remember them being a silver in colour too.

However, I would only end up having a wee if mum sat on there first.

Hope this resolves soon Elsie, its a worry when they hold on isn't it?

Good luck sweetheart XXX

[Angelic]

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Elsie has she ever used a public toilet with an automatic flush?