Hi,
I have read a lot of the posts on the forum and hopefully with the amount of experience people on here have someone can advise my best course of action.
The business my poor hubs ran recently went bust due to all of the uncertainty with Brexit over the last couple of years as he dealt with mostly imported wholesale products, and many customers dropped them with fear of uncertainty of supply in the future. The business turned over millions so he is struggling to deal with everything.
Most personal debts incurred while the business was struggling are in his name, and ultimately it’s likely he will be best to go bankrupt according to his solicitor and the CA.
However £25,000 of the debt (3 x Barclaycards) were in my name and we haven’t been able to pay them in some time, I had letters in October last year saying they were all defaulted but because of the stress I never wrote back and they haven’t written to me again since, so over a year.
Hubby feels very guilty that I have this debt in my name as before we had the family I had a good job and was always good at saving and never really had any debt in my whole life, so he feels his business failing is to blame for everything.
Anyway, he has now gone and raised the 25K from relatives and is insisting I pay the cards off in full to clear this debt from my name. Only it seems to me after reading on this forum and others that if the debts have already been defaulted then it is going to be on my credit file for 5 more years anyway even if I pay them off in full!
I have tried to convince him many times to reconsider this and either give the money back for now or at least get advice but he is having none of it, and won’t even read the posts on here. So I’m seriously considering putting this money in a bank account somewhere that he doesn’t know about and waiting it out to see what happens but telling him I’ve paid it.
My only problem with this is that to do so means deceiving my husband which I have never done in 20 years of marriage, and if Barclaycard do suddenly start to contact me or sell it on to someone else he is likely to find out, as we have always both opened all of the letters and Barclaycard also have the landline as their only contact too.
I’m very worried about if I did this and he found out it could really push him over the edge.
Any ideas anyone? If I wrote to them saying here is my ‘updated’ details and gave another phone number and address, of a friend let’s say, would this a) Remind them I exist or b) Make them suspicious?
Further info that may help:
We live in a rented house, which I’m the tenant of not my husband.
We have 2 children of school age.
I have no other debt in my name other than the normal everyday utility type bills.
I have no income at moment and hubby on minimum wage at a supermarket.
We have no really assets, our cars are 5K at most together.
Kate
I have read a lot of the posts on the forum and hopefully with the amount of experience people on here have someone can advise my best course of action.
The business my poor hubs ran recently went bust due to all of the uncertainty with Brexit over the last couple of years as he dealt with mostly imported wholesale products, and many customers dropped them with fear of uncertainty of supply in the future. The business turned over millions so he is struggling to deal with everything.
Most personal debts incurred while the business was struggling are in his name, and ultimately it’s likely he will be best to go bankrupt according to his solicitor and the CA.
However £25,000 of the debt (3 x Barclaycards) were in my name and we haven’t been able to pay them in some time, I had letters in October last year saying they were all defaulted but because of the stress I never wrote back and they haven’t written to me again since, so over a year.
Hubby feels very guilty that I have this debt in my name as before we had the family I had a good job and was always good at saving and never really had any debt in my whole life, so he feels his business failing is to blame for everything.
Anyway, he has now gone and raised the 25K from relatives and is insisting I pay the cards off in full to clear this debt from my name. Only it seems to me after reading on this forum and others that if the debts have already been defaulted then it is going to be on my credit file for 5 more years anyway even if I pay them off in full!
I have tried to convince him many times to reconsider this and either give the money back for now or at least get advice but he is having none of it, and won’t even read the posts on here. So I’m seriously considering putting this money in a bank account somewhere that he doesn’t know about and waiting it out to see what happens but telling him I’ve paid it.
My only problem with this is that to do so means deceiving my husband which I have never done in 20 years of marriage, and if Barclaycard do suddenly start to contact me or sell it on to someone else he is likely to find out, as we have always both opened all of the letters and Barclaycard also have the landline as their only contact too.
I’m very worried about if I did this and he found out it could really push him over the edge.
Any ideas anyone? If I wrote to them saying here is my ‘updated’ details and gave another phone number and address, of a friend let’s say, would this a) Remind them I exist or b) Make them suspicious?
Further info that may help:
We live in a rented house, which I’m the tenant of not my husband.
We have 2 children of school age.
I have no other debt in my name other than the normal everyday utility type bills.
I have no income at moment and hubby on minimum wage at a supermarket.
We have no really assets, our cars are 5K at most together.
Kate
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