Greetings to all from a long lost member ! Good to see some familiar names amongst the many new ones ! Whilst I have not posted for a long time, I have dropped by as a visitor from time to time but I now need assistance / advice again ! I realise that I thought that I would not need advice again after getting debt free previously but things happen ... in my case, marriage to a South east Asian lady ... who I'm still married to ... and two unexpected children entailing expensive private hospitals and hence credit cards. I was working and on a reasonable income, so much so that I paid for her visa and flight to UK where she stayed from 2010 to 2012 until she had to go back to take care of her terminally ill father ... the rules changed, her visa expired and I have not been able to see her or the children for five years now as unemployment makes it a non starter ... I am now on ESA with severe depression and have been for two years now.
So, I have three cards ...
1) High street bank who I don't bank with ... £4.5k, paid for one hospital birth, they have been brilliant ... spoke to them two years ago when first on ESA and they basically said they would terminate my account and not chase me or go for a ccj and for me to contact them if my situation improved ... it is well over a year since I contacted them and I have not heard anything from them since ... so far, so good.
2) High street bank who I actually bank with, £1.5k, payments up to date and will continue to be kept up to date for reasons I will explain further on in ...
3) Sub prime card, £4.5k, two year account freeze insurance running out in the near future ... this is the one I'm concerned about ... I will not contact them until I have taken onboard advice given here !
I haven't named the accounts as I am suspicious that these banks keep an eye on all forums in the hope of gleaning snippets of information that may help them.
The fly in the ointment is something that I will explain ...
Basically, my late mother was getting more and more ill as she reached old age and I had decided that when the inheritance arrived as always promised, I would clear the cards and buy a cheap property abroad as I did not want to see out my life in a bedsit paying dead money to a landlord forever more ... however, I had not bargained for my sister and her husband to actively conspire behind my back and bully my mother into changing her will during the last month of her lifr in a hospice. I got a solicitor involved and he got a barrister involved and they agreed that there were anomalies and it was clear to see what had taken place. It went to mediation and I finally got the original £7.5k I was left increased to £26.5k of which the legal fees were £10k. I was advised not to go to court due to another case running at the time that if it didn't go as expected, the rules would change and I would have nothing to take her to court with ... so I reluctantly settled for the £26.5k and walked away with the £16.5k. As it turned out, I made the right decision ... if I had been greedy, I would have had nothing to take her to court over ... the supreme court ruled in favour of the charity and the rules did indeed change ... my delighted sister walked away with my late mothers house and bank accounts and added it to the two houses her and her husband already owned ... so I had £16.5k instead of £125k ... such is life !
So ... the choice was clear my cards, dwindle the rest to below £6k to claim benefits and live out my life in a bedsit or buy a cheap property in Europe for my retirement in five years and worry about the cards later ... for me, it was a no brainer ... I bought the cheap property in Europe ... and that is the fly in the ointment and why I keep my one card up to date as I paid for the house through the bank.
I appreciate some may think I took the wrong decision but it is what it is and I would do the same again.
I realise it is unlikely that the sub prime card in question would have any inkling that I have this property but I worry that there may be a remote possibility of them taking it ... although it would not be much use for them to do so as there are many empty properties for sale there ... mine was empty for twenty years until I paid over the odds for it (I paid £12k not including all of the extra fees and taxes ) but a neighbour says a local would not have paid more than £8k or so ... but foreigners always pay more !!
it also means that I could not go down the bankruptcy route and wouldn't want to for the sake of £4.5k ... so what to do initially ... maybe try to make a minimum offer to them of £5 a month ... they know I am on ESA and the reasons why and I'm aware they can't sell the debt on due to my mental health ... and they had a bank statement every three months so they no I only get £50 a week ( I was honest and declared my house to the DWP, hence they take £20 a week off my benefit) ...
Any advice gratefully received ....
So, I have three cards ...
1) High street bank who I don't bank with ... £4.5k, paid for one hospital birth, they have been brilliant ... spoke to them two years ago when first on ESA and they basically said they would terminate my account and not chase me or go for a ccj and for me to contact them if my situation improved ... it is well over a year since I contacted them and I have not heard anything from them since ... so far, so good.
2) High street bank who I actually bank with, £1.5k, payments up to date and will continue to be kept up to date for reasons I will explain further on in ...
3) Sub prime card, £4.5k, two year account freeze insurance running out in the near future ... this is the one I'm concerned about ... I will not contact them until I have taken onboard advice given here !
I haven't named the accounts as I am suspicious that these banks keep an eye on all forums in the hope of gleaning snippets of information that may help them.
The fly in the ointment is something that I will explain ...
Basically, my late mother was getting more and more ill as she reached old age and I had decided that when the inheritance arrived as always promised, I would clear the cards and buy a cheap property abroad as I did not want to see out my life in a bedsit paying dead money to a landlord forever more ... however, I had not bargained for my sister and her husband to actively conspire behind my back and bully my mother into changing her will during the last month of her lifr in a hospice. I got a solicitor involved and he got a barrister involved and they agreed that there were anomalies and it was clear to see what had taken place. It went to mediation and I finally got the original £7.5k I was left increased to £26.5k of which the legal fees were £10k. I was advised not to go to court due to another case running at the time that if it didn't go as expected, the rules would change and I would have nothing to take her to court with ... so I reluctantly settled for the £26.5k and walked away with the £16.5k. As it turned out, I made the right decision ... if I had been greedy, I would have had nothing to take her to court over ... the supreme court ruled in favour of the charity and the rules did indeed change ... my delighted sister walked away with my late mothers house and bank accounts and added it to the two houses her and her husband already owned ... so I had £16.5k instead of £125k ... such is life !
So ... the choice was clear my cards, dwindle the rest to below £6k to claim benefits and live out my life in a bedsit or buy a cheap property in Europe for my retirement in five years and worry about the cards later ... for me, it was a no brainer ... I bought the cheap property in Europe ... and that is the fly in the ointment and why I keep my one card up to date as I paid for the house through the bank.
I appreciate some may think I took the wrong decision but it is what it is and I would do the same again.
I realise it is unlikely that the sub prime card in question would have any inkling that I have this property but I worry that there may be a remote possibility of them taking it ... although it would not be much use for them to do so as there are many empty properties for sale there ... mine was empty for twenty years until I paid over the odds for it (I paid £12k not including all of the extra fees and taxes ) but a neighbour says a local would not have paid more than £8k or so ... but foreigners always pay more !!
it also means that I could not go down the bankruptcy route and wouldn't want to for the sake of £4.5k ... so what to do initially ... maybe try to make a minimum offer to them of £5 a month ... they know I am on ESA and the reasons why and I'm aware they can't sell the debt on due to my mental health ... and they had a bank statement every three months so they no I only get £50 a week ( I was honest and declared my house to the DWP, hence they take £20 a week off my benefit) ...
Any advice gratefully received ....
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